Selfish vs. Selfless … hmm. 

The original definitions go a little something like this:

Selfish:  concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, well-being; characterized by care or concern only for oneself. … self-seeking, self-ful, self-ending

Selfless:  having little or no concern for oneself … devoted to others welfare and interest and not one’s own.

The connotation got screwed up.  It wasn’t until the 19th century that these words became a judgement on individual character.

Why would a person not have concern for themselves, their needs, their hopes, dreams and desires?  Why would anyone ever put someone else’s needs above their own?  Because we’ve been told it’s wrong.

I am a loving mother, devoted wife, loyal friend, and dedicated to my clients and business.  I am also selfish.  I claim it with everything I am.    I put my personal needs, hopes, dreams and desires above everyone elses… and it’s a good thing.  Why?  Because when I do, I can give to others from a place that is pure of heart – without obligation, without resentment, without being put upon. 

Selflessness is revered by our society.  Self-less.  Without self.  Without heart, soul, pure passion, love?

It’s because of ”selfless” that the new buzz word for women is Self-Care.  Self-Care (def): care for the self without medical or professional consultation.  That’s not good enough for me.

Here’s how I promote to claim SELFISHness:

1) Create a nourishment menu full of things YOU love.

2) Put your needs on your schedule FIRST, then plug in everything else.  You are worth it.

3) Ask yourself first and trust the answers … the magic is inside of you.

Ya know, the word “bitch” was derogatory to women until it was claimed as empowering.  How about we put Selfish next on the agenda?

Click here to join me for the Lifestyle-911 program and put yourself first!